Community Soccer: How to Advocate for Your Young Footballer
Community soccer is where it all begins. For most young players, it’s their first introduction to the game — full of laughter, muddy boots, friendships, and memories that last a lifetime. These local programs, often run by dedicated volunteers, serve an incredible purpose: making football fun, accessible, and inclusive.
But for some players, there comes a point when football becomes more than a hobby — it becomes a passion, a focus, even a dream. And when that moment arrives, parents face one of the toughest challenges in youth sports: learning how — and when — to advocate for their child.
When Does the Shift Happen?
Typically between the ages of 9 and 13, players begin to separate themselves — not just with skill, but with intent. You’ll see them training on their own, watching matches with curiosity and analysis, asking to do more. They want to improve, not because they’re told to — but because they love it.
This is the signal. Not all kids will send it, but when they do, it’s time for parents to tune in.
Our Story: From Community Fields to European Football
Our son Carson started just like most — kicking a ball around with his local club, North Vancouver Football Club (NVFC). From ages 5 to 10, it was all about fun and development. As his coach, I saw his growth firsthand — not just in ability, but in mindset. By age 10, he was clearly one of the top players in his group.
When NVFC began forming select teams, we expected Carson to move forward. But he wasn’t chosen. Whether due to internal politics, my coaching role, or other club dynamics, he was overlooked. Even the following year, after continuing to dominate at his level, he was passed over again.
Eventually, Carson earned his spot on the Gold Select team. But even then, the reality of community soccer became clear: the team was built more on connections and convenience than performance. Carson, an outsider to the group, never fully fit in — despite proving his worth on the field.
After two strong seasons, he was dropped to the Silver level. That was our wake-up call.
What We Learned — And What We Want Other Parents to Know
1. Be Honest With Yourself First
Your advocacy must be grounded in reality, not hope. Ask: Is your child consistently showing hunger to improve? Are they among the top performers in their group? Is this their dream — or yours?
2. Understand the Politics of Community Soccer
Community clubs are built on volunteers, geography, and familiarity. Coaches are often parents. Selection decisions may reflect personal relationships rather than merit. This isn’t always malicious — it’s just the nature of grassroots sports.
3. Speak Up, But Stay Constructive
When advocating, lead with curiosity, not complaints. Ask for feedback. Request transparency. Come with examples of performance and development. Stay respectful — but be persistent if your child is being overlooked.
4. Diversify Your Feedback Loop
Don’t rely solely on your club’s evaluation. Seek outside opinions from private coaches, technical advisors, or independent trainers who can assess your child with objectivity.
5. Explore Alternative Pathways
Eventually, we made the move to FC Faly, a private academy focused on development, not wins. It was the best decision we ever made. Carson flourished in a setting where his ability — not his background — determined his opportunity.
Today, Carson plays for Estoril Praia Elite Academy in Portugal. The journey hasn’t been perfect, but it’s been authentic — and fueled by the right kind of advocacy.
Final Thoughts: Advocate With Purpose, Not Pressure
If your child loves the game and shows signs of potential, your role is to help them find the right environment to grow. That may start in community soccer — and it may one day lead beyond it.
Advocacy isn’t about pushing your child into elite football — it’s about removing the barriers when they’re ready to take the next step.
Trust your instincts. Support their dream. And when it’s time, be the voice they need — clear, confident, and rooted in who they truly are.
That’s Where NXTLVL Footballer Comes In
NXTLVL Footballer exists to support the ambitious 10% — the players and families looking to explore:
Elite development opportunities
Professional academies
International trials
College pathways through football
We’re not here to pull kids out of systems that are serving them well. We’re here to walk alongside the families who know their child is ready for more — but aren’t sure where to turn next.
This is a big decision. It’s personal, complex, and often overwhelming. We’ve lived it — and we’ve built NXTLVL to help others navigate it, step by step.
If this sounds like your family, we invite you to explore our free and premium content, consultation services, and upcoming guides that make the path clearer.
Because when the time is right, every young footballer deserves a shot at the next level.
Michael & Elise